Mike Holt Life Skills Series

Mike Holt Life Skills Series - Relationships

Relationships

I built my life and my business with hard work. Along the way, I developed skills and created systems to help me succeed. I want to share with you the knowledge and skills that led to my success, the goal being to give you focus for your own success. My Life Skills Program will help you understand the skills you need to develop an action plan so your life can be successful beyond what you currently feel is possible. So how do you get what you want? It's actually really easy. Do what you love and do it with passion.

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The way people talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other.

Relationships are continuously changing and are very fragile. Strive to understand others and allow them to be themselves so you can be yourself.

Learn who you are. You don’t have to be embarrassed about yourself, or worried about what people think. You’re who you are and you’re not somebody else. You can’t run your life based on other peoples’ opinions or points of view, or your perception of how they are judging you. People will judge you, but here’s the thing—you’re also judging them, and that’s the problem. Just be honest with yourself about who you are. If you don’t want to manage your finances, you want to be sarcastic, you don’t want to change (and you accept that), and you don’t want to be accountable for anything—okay. But just be honest with yourself, and say, “It’s okay, that’s who I want to be.” Be who you are, but don’t expect anybody else to be anything but who they are. You can’t have a meaningful, authentic relationship with anyone if you’re not being honest about who you are.

If you associate with people and things against your value system, then you’re going to be angry. In family, or even work situations, it can be complicated. It can be hurtful to people, but it’s your position to take. Be kind to them, but don’t allow their negativity to bring you down. You don’t have to be disrespectful. You can still get together, but you must set boundaries, and soon everybody will realize that’s the new order—that’s the way it’s going to be.

Understanding others is key to building relationships. Your focus should be to:

Accept our differences. We don’t even accept ourselves! There are a lot of things about Mike Holt that I don’t like, and I’m working on being better—and you’re all helping me be better. I am pretty good at accepting people. I don’t care what you are because my relationship with you is a one-on-one relationship. We have a tendency to have high expectations of people. Just be who you are, let others be who they are, and accept them.
Build a team. You can’t be an island in your personal life or at work. Work on the relationships—that determines everything.
Don’t allow others to hold you back. Sometimes relationships can control you and hold you back—be strong enough to stick to your path.
Have only positive relationships (gut feeling). Stay away from the ones that give you a pang.
Treatment of others. Treat everyone so they feel important, respected, safe, and valued.
Utilize others’ strengths and weaknesses. Understand those around you and work together as a team toward the goal.

Be who you are, but always be respectful, validate people, let them be who they are, and accept them for that.

The content for this newsletter was extracted from Mike Holt's Life Skills.For more information on this video program, or to get your copy, click on the image to the left, or visit MikeHolt.com/Life.

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